The orgasm gap refers to how in heterosexual relationships, men are having drastically more orgasms than women.
Studies reveal that lesbians have significantly more orgasms than straight women. Women also experience orgasm much more frequently and quickly while masturbating than with a male partner.
So, how do we close the gap?
UNDERSTAND THAT PORN IS NOT SEX ED
The lack of education around pleasure has resulted in many learning from porn. However, the depiction of desire and orgasm in heterosexual women is grossly incorrect. Porn is a fantasy made for men by men, mostly devoid of communication, connection and understanding of female anatomy.
Society mirrors pornography and overvalues penetrative sex, when only 18% of women can orgasm from penetration alone. So where may one redirect their energy? ✨ The clitoris ✨.
KNOW THE BODYClitoral stimulation is key to reaching orgasm. Contrary to popular belief, the clitoris need not be an appetizer, but the whole meal. Take pleasure into your own hands by understanding and exploring your body. Knowledge about your parts, patterns and sensitive areas will help increase your communication and experience with your partner.
EASE THE MINDNext to the clitoris, the mind plays a major role in orgasm. Sexologist Gigi Engle, says, “having an orgasm is as much a mental process as it is a physical process… Being in a calm, present mindset is key to allowing your brain and body to sync up”.
